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febbraio 2014

We are our own masters

When we think of wanting to do something we should not do, the “damage” is already done, right? Might as well do that thing, right? Otherwise our actions would be hypocritical, right?

It’s a concept that can be extended to any type of relationship…sentimental, friendship or familiar. A practical act is a result of a thought (usually)…for example if a betrayal happens it’s because first we thought we would do it and if we decided to do it, we have already betrayed. Right?

The key point of the argument is: the betrayal..where is it? If we did or just thought something that it meets our needs and our essence…why the relationship with others should change? In fact, I would see the treachery against ourselves when we force ourselves to suppress what we feel sincerely to do.

Honesty hurts .. but I don’t think it makes sense to repress ourselves.. and we should instead follow the flow of our essence and let it carry us.. If what we do is what we perceive as more in tune with ourselves at that moment, why it should be “wrong”? Of course I’m talking about lifestyle choices that are not going to severely damage people that are involved… but, when we find our balance, repressing ourselves would mean altering this balance and pretending with ourselves and with others! I don’t know…maybe I have in my mind an utopian vision of universal love and sincerity difficult to understand and accept…

And it’s not about to listen to the head, to the heart or to the stomach. I believe the head, heart, stomach, liver, feet, pinky etc. work together because if the stimulus is not generated by everything that is part of us, physical or abstract it is, then it’s not what we want really to do. Mind and body are acting in sync..

For learning about ourselves and the stimuli that our body gives and receives, we can and we often have to “use” others. We are all available to everyone. And we mustn’t be afraid to do so for fear of hurting someone.. I would assume that no one can hurt us if we don’t want it and blaming others is cowardly and for insecure people.. We are responsible for ourselves and our sufferings, as well as our happiness.. All the people we meet are “tools” in the evolution of our lives and our personal growth…and each of us is a tool for the others, who are friends, lovers or simply passers.  This thought should not offend anyone because it’s a thought that includes all of us..indeed it should make us rejoice that a world of people, relationships, experiences and sensations awaits us everyday_wherever we go_whatever we do. If our way of doing or thinking hurts someone who relates to us it’s because there is something unresolved in the person to whom we are relating.. This thought does not justify our actions, not at all…ourselves in our life we meet someone whose words or actions could cause us suffering and not being able to avoid it, but we can work on ourselves and on our ability to make us impervious to negativity. Obviously we can choose to mold us and act in a calm and gentle way in order to avoid any kind of suffering to others but ,at least in my opinion, it does not depend entirely on us… No coincidence it often happens that we act with good faith and we create suffering.. why? Regardless of who is or is not the culprit (this is a separate chapter), our suffering is avoidable or at least manageable…by ourselves. Blaming the generator of suffering certainly does not help us. This doesn’t mean ignoring our actions…we cannot do it, but we can ignore those of others… And for ignoring I don’t mean underestimate or not caring about them, but being aware of their insignificance and negativity.. We should not generate negativity but above all, do not let the negativity of others to creep into us..
Often generating suffering creates suffering in ourselves and this often occurs regardless of the importance that the “victim” has for us, as when we make good actions and we feel rewarded regardless of who is the person who receives our good. Between all of us reigns a subtle and profound empathy and it’s difficult to cultivate positive empathy by removing the negative one.

At the base we don’t endure that the men need pain to learn, to learn about life (like when you fall and you hurt yourself, or you hit a wall and just at that moment you realize that you have to avoid that thing). But the pain is curable when we have the right knowledge that makes it less suffering.. We all have a sadistic side (without which our goodness wouldn’t have raison d’etre)… and there are those who can keep it at bay, there is those who fear it, there are those who pretend to not have it, but there are those who worship it.. By the way:

it’s not what we live that creates in us joy or pain, but everything resides in how we live.. And to quote a friend of mine from Senegal “doesn’t count what you see with your eyes, but what your eyes look.”

Life is art

Everything means something.. It’s not easy but it’s nice to try to interpret something about someone that we don’t know, because often there are connections between ourselves and the person that we don’t know, even if we are not aware yet of it.. We are all connected and there’s always something to discover inside each of us. The idea to leave  always a space within ourselves for someone who still we don’t know, that we are knowing now or that soon we will know….it’s lifeblood. It comes by itself the time when you are ready to embrace the things in a certain way even though it is considered a mistake to lose sight of this kind of “hug”, but consciousness doesn’t go very far without awareness.. in the sense that you cannot understand what is best for yourself without being aware of the way down of it, you have to put into practice your consciousness.. and live your own inner light fully. The awareness grows up in small drops, and when you think you are dehydrated, you’re still listening, you’re always fertile ground. Unfortunately and fortunately everything is in our hands, we are masters of ourselves and of our happiness even in dealing with situations that don’t depend on us. Happiness is waiting to be embraced, don’t blame yourself, the “guilts” happen for a reason…analyze them instead to remove them..

The awareness comes in small drops, and when you think you are dehydrated, you’re still listening, you’re always fertile ground. Unfortunately and fortunately everything is in our hands, we are masters of ourselves and of our happiness even in dealing with situations that do not depend on us. Happiness is waiting to be embraced, don’t blame yourself, the “guilts” happen for a reason .. analyze them instead to remove them..

Why a person should find difficult to talk about him/herself in front of another person whose intentions are wholly good? First, you should establish a good dialogue with yourself before that with others, without it you will never have clear and spontaneous relationships and, often, you will believe only to experience them.. It happens many times to delude ourselves and if it happens it’s just because there is something unresolved at the base with ourselves and the solution shouldn’t be found anywhere else except inside of us, although it would seem much easier to trace it into the others. There is a solution that you cannot see, not with the eyes.. Don’t focus on how you did one thing, but what prompted you to do it… If the reasons were clean, transparent and genuine, then that thing, in any way it came out, it’s pretty special, “perfect”…

Life is art. You cannot judge it, you can just live it. We shouldn’t classify it but taste it! Everything you create is beautiful, and not because it’s beautiful to look within certain canons, but because it was born in a fantasy world of your own inner soul.. Art has a vital function, think about whole life as art, about emotions as art, about love as art.. Creativity makes you free to be yourself and to communicate without any obligation imposed from outside. Think about it often, whatever you do, put this thought into everything you do.. When you undertake a certain perspective of life, when you focus your energies in a given way, well…so many beautiful things happen to you and it is not fate or coincidence…we could call it Karma or not call it at all, but one thing is certain: positivity attracts positivity! It’s not a coincidence that certain things happen as it’s not a coincidence that you meet “unknown” people that make you partaker of their lives without knowing who you are. They don’t know anything about you but your energy comes and brings those people around you to share with you what they experience, although apparently they have no reason to do so. Positivity is not necessarily synonymous with optimism, it’s love for love and it’s like transforming everything creatively into something positive for yourself, for others, for everyone.. Everything is included in love.. We would live better if we stop to be afraid, to be afraid of losing the people with whom we have never been really connected, afraid of being alone, afraid of being judged, afraid of not appearing as we would like…a bunch of bullshit!

Often removing the negativity of some people apparently dear to us is needed to clean outside and inside of us, to delete all the shit! Listen to your heart and start doing things that you really love to do, even if this may lead to changes in you that not everyone can understand.. Even if your change is reproached by your friends, despite you’re being happy of it, go on your way because these are people who don’t really care about you and your essence, and just because you don’t behave exactly as they expect from you, when in fact you have gained your identity, they hinder you.. The moment in which you start to be yourself, to listen to your heart and to be spontaneous and sincere with what you feel, some people will automatically turn away from you and others will approach automatically to you, and if you’re happy with yourself, then you will also be sure that the people who will approach to you will only be beautiful and special people. Someone will see you like a muse, a help for their lives, while others will want to share with you their heart and soul.. People are not always ready to accept the changes of others, often because they are unable victims to do the same, or rather they are not yet ready for appending essential changes in their lives and so they try to devalue the path of others..

If you understand what is best for you, you have the tools to help others to find themselves.. Art is nothing if there is no sharing.. Surely you will suffer in your life sometimes but it’s the perspective with which you will face everything that will make your life beautiful as it is. Do what you feel and if you feel something, do it as soon as possible, don’t put off and don’t let anyone to hinder you. Who loves you shouldn’t hinder you and who doesn’t love you deserves to be dismissed.. And the love that binds you to other people is not necessarily a love that stems from a knowledge gained of the other before.. There are those who love you even if they don’t know you, but they love you for the energy you transmit and they make rooting for you.

Make rooting for yourself.

Life is art. Art is sharing. Share your life.

Your energy is worth more than a thousand words

Know yourself and you will know the world. Yes, the world. People, animals, plants. Vibrations, sensations and energies. We spend our lives searching ourselves outside, in the others, in the work, in the expectations. We spend our lives looking for a soul mate or a best friend, without knowing ourselves. The soul mate doesn’t exist if we don’t know our soul. And the “friend of the heart” doesn’t exist if we do not know our heart. Know yourself and others will know you. Love yourself and others will love you . Appreciate yourself and others will appreciate you. Not all of course.. It’s just you, that with the energy you emanate, select the people that are around you, that really know you, that love you or appreciate you. Don’t complain if people that surround you don’t like you, don’t love you or don’t appreciate you as you would like, and don’t blame something or someone else about your dissatisfaction. Because if it happens it’s just because YOU don’t know who you are and what you want. The life that you say being difficult, the world that you say being unfair and the city that you say being small, sad and limited, are full of special people. Yes, those special people that you have been looking for a long time and you have been crying to not have found them. The world is full of those people and you, in the meantime…what do you do? You spend your time complaining that you have not found them without realizing that they pass in front of your tears. Find yourself and they will come to you as a result. If you’ll be running after them losing yourself, you’ll be breathless and alone. And you wont understand where you went wrong because you will waste all of your energy to be angry to have run so much to get what you wanted without any results. Stop for a moment, don’t run without any reason, it’s a waste of energy that you can direct to other resources. Don’t you realize that you are running standing on the spot? Stop for a moment. Give voice to your body, to your mind, to your heart .. and shut your damn mouth. Stop complaining or making excuses. You are not the chosen one of the losers. You didn’t receive the incurable disability of the unhappiness. There is no disease worse than the one we create by ourselves. Your body is vibrating energy that you underestimate. You trust the fate. You call “luck” the positivity and “bad luck” the negativity. You confuse a clue with the case and an effect with a coincidence. Destiny? Luck? Bad luck? Case? Coincidence? Crap. No doubt the environment in which we live (family, friends, school, work, society) is not negligible. But rather than seeing this environment as something that affects us in a negative way, I would see it rather as something that puts us to the test. A stimulus for the emission of our energy. If our energy is negative, inevitably we sow negativity around us. The contrary if it’s positive. Energy is not something that comes out voluntarily or talking for hours, but it is emanated and perceived without any control. It happens. Occurs. And feeling its flow is magical. A new baptism into a mechanical and apathetic reality. Energy doesn’t need words, and I’ve already “talked” too much. See you at your baptism, bye bye.


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We always talk about love as possession without thinking that the possessiveness often reigns also in friendships.
We are taught from an early age that we have to have the best friend…. OUR best friend.
When I was a child I had to “book” my best friend, otherwise I risked that someone could precede me and forced me to choose another one.
The best friend has privileges that other friends do not have, but also the best friend expects something that other friends do not expect.
The best friends, as the lovers, expect the sms of goodnight/good morning, or the “I miss you/ I love you” weekly … and also a monthly average of 4 hearts on their Facebook wall!
No coincidence that I decided to not officialize no longer any relationship!
Why do you need to sign a contract in every kind of relationship?
Can you live without giving a name to all the things you do and all the relationships that you live?
Can you just live?

I don’t need to know your name or what you do in your life to love you.
I don’t need to know how many times you think about me per day or how often you contact me to believe you’re a good friend.
I don’t need to have met you long time ago to love you and I don’t need to see you every fucking day to think we are close friends!
And I do not need to receive constant attentions from you to be happy about our friendship.
But above all, I don’t need to obsessively repeating my feelings for you …
I don’t speak just for moving the air, that’s why if I said to you “I love you” 3 months ago..it’s still valid, dammit, even without its obsessive repetition!
And less you will expect such stupid confirmations from me, most I’ll give to you!

Don’t be offended if tomorrow I will love a stranger as much as I love you.
Don’t be offended if I’ll spend the Saturday evening with him/her or if I’ll decide to not go out at all.
And don’t be offended if you don’t keep up to date on my life 24 hours 24.
Maybe I cannot or maybe I don’t want … in any case, whatever has happened, happens or will happen.. it has been, it is and it will be always SPONTANEOUS!
Be happy for everything I do or I don’t do because it’s natural, pure, free!
What else do you want?

What could be more beautiful than the spontaneity?
I think nothing.
I think that anything that is not natural can be really nice.
A friend of mine once said: “Please contact me only when you truly want to do it and never because you fear that if you don’t do it it can have a negative impact on our relationship..”
Trust that everything that is not spontaneous does not lead to anything good and it is destined to end, or be fake and suffered.

As soon as we are afraid of losing those around us, we have already lost ourselves.
We see ourselves as incomplete people, with empty compartments that things and people absolutely have to fill, but it’s not like that..
There is nothing to fill, there is just so much to expand, infinitesimally ..
Each person can enrich us, everyone is basic but no one is indispensable!
There’s no need to cling forever to one or more people in particular.
We are all passengers!
You should be happy for every friend you known, regardless of whether this friendship is to last days, months or years!
Some friends share with you just one day of their life, but it is a day that lasts forever!

What is possession?
Not even we belong completely to ourselves!
We are abstract matter and concrete energy.

I see

I would like people to…

I would like people to hug each other more and look deep into their eyes .
I would like people to speak with their eyes and smile with their heart.
I would like people to live every fucking emotion and do not hide themselves behind their fears…but instead, seduce them.
I would like people to make love with their own fears and stop being afraid of themselves, of their own bodies and their own desires.
I would like people to be less jealous and understand that the naturalness of a feeling can not be repressed, inhibited or forced.
I would like people to undress more and stop to see the body as an enemy or as a tool.
I would like people to cuddle their body and other bodies and love them every day for a new, pure and free love.
I would like people to dance more, sing more, play more. Always, however, anywhere.
I would like people to complain less and understand that from difficulties something good can arise..while complaints just turn away beautiful things.
I would like people to realize the paradox of life . That life is not just one. That we don’t have dreams just when we sleep and we don’t live only when we are awake.
I would like people to die everyday to reborn the next day.
I would like people to die every moment of their life in order to live it as if it was always the first and the last.
I would like people to be happy for others even if they are living sad moments. Because no one can be happy alone .
I would like people to understand that happiness should be shared and that life must be shared, that everything must be shared.
I would like people to abandon the formalities and appearances and marry spontaneity.
I would like people to live smoothly with everyone everywhere.
I would like people to eat the past, absorb the best from it and shit the worst.
I would like people to live in the present with the knowledge of what they live and why.
I would like people to speak, spit compliments, shout positivity.
I would like people to be free from the chains and devour life.
I would like people to devour each other and eat Love.
I would like people to recognize the God that is within each of us and kiss him every day.
I would like people to do everything they like, it doesn’t matter what. I would like them to do it just because they want, because they feel like that.
I would like people to transform judgments into reflections and problems into solutions.
I would like people to free strengths and weaknesses to make them dance together.
I would like people to stop to see the joy of living as madness and spontaneity as madness.
I would like people to burn the concept of normality.
Normal is all that is spontaneous.

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